Imagine yourself strolling around a massive shopping mall and you can’t seem to find this specific shop you have been looking for. What would you do? Your instinct will tell you to look for a concierge, or for any directory that can tell you which way to take and where exactly that shop is, right? This situation can be likened to an engaged couple who doesn’t know where to start when it comes to planning their own wedding. Don’t be embarrassed! For sure, every one has been through this.
The emergence of the Internet and social media platforms, however, has made the lives of everyone so much easier. Thanks to wedding blogs like Merry To Marry for the tips and hacks they compile regularly in order to give a light on those who are dazed and confused. But there is this particular community in the Philippine wedding scene who seems to proactively assume the position of being a concierge–the point person to go to for answers. The Wedding Tip Sheet did that! Does THAT! Darlene Tan-Salazar, who is the woman behind this, recently posted her ‘Do Not Do This Series’ and as such, we would like to share with you some of these.
Trimming down the number of people who you should invite to your wedding is rather a taxing task. It can sometimes be the cause of disagreement and misunderstanding between the groom and the bride or even with relatives and friends. At times, even just thinking of the names to include in the master’s list is dreadful. You want an intimate celebration, but you’re thinking how you can do that without hurting others’ feelings and your wallet. Hence today, we give you 5 valuable tips to get to that wedding guest list.
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1. Start with your close relatives: Of course, you want your immediate relatives to witness you walk down the aisle. And when we say immediate, we mean your parents and your siblings and their families (if they have). Include relatives within your first and second-degree of relationships. If it goes beyond that, especially if you are not familiar with them but being insisted by your parents, you don’t have to invite them. Tell your parents or those ‘internal voices’ that you are working on a budget, unless your parents (they) are willing to pay extra for those.
2. Closest friends: Invite only your bestest friends whom you have kept in touch. Do not invite your ‘best friends’ in high school or even in kindergarten days if you haven’t spoken with them in ages. This is not a class reunion. Bear in mind, only invite those you think will invite you to their wedding, as well.
3. No plus ones: Unless you are close to your friends’ partners (boyfriends and girlfriends or husbands and wives), reiterate to your friend that you only reserve one seat for her. This is about you not about them, right!? At the same time, this applies to your friends’ children. Be polite in telling them that you want your wedding to be an adult-only event. They will understand it and they will enjoy the celebration even more.
4. Boss and colleagues: This might be tricky, but the unwritten rule you should follow is, if you are best of friends with your co-workers and boss, then invite them. Otherwise don’t, especially if you despise your boss to death after not approving your requested leaves.
5. Neighborhood: It has become part of the Filipino wedding culture to invite the whole ‘baranggay’ as insisted by your parents, but it was so 80s. Invite only your neighbors you are close with or whom you talk to frequently, and not the people even from other neighborhoods. This is a wedding, not a fiesta.
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