Tuesday Tips: Maintaining a Good Relationship With Your Wedding Coordinator

April 2, 2019

Hiring wedding coordinators is a great way to help you enjoy the whole process of planning your wedding. They are there to do the tedious task of organizing, contacting, and booking your suppliers. They provide a great deal of support to ensure the success of the happiest day of your life. Without realizing it, they will become your best friend. Thus, having a good relationship with them is essential.

Here are a few tips on how to maintain a good relationship with your wedding coordinator:

1. Have mutual respect for each other.

When you hire a wedding coordinator, it is automatically expected that both parties will invest their time and commit emotionally. As their client, it is expected that you treat them with respect and they will also treat you in the best way possible. Mutual respect results in a very good relationship. In return, good relationships create outstanding results. And of course you wouldn’t want anything short of outstanding on your wedding day.

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2. Be honest and use your words.

Wedding coordinators do not have the talent to read minds. They do not solely rely on body language too. They need to hear your thoughts so they could properly respond and do their job. Whatever it is that’s bothering or concerning you, say it. If you do not like the things they recommend, tell them. Remember that wedding coordinators will not force you to book vendors you’re not comfortable with.

3. Know what coordinators are obliged to do.

As a client, you are entitled to services that are written on the contract you signed. You should pay attention to the specificity and scope of these services to make sure you adequately get the end of the bargain. You also have to avoid crossing the line. Keep in mind that coordinators are there to make your life so much easier while planning for your wedding. But never forget that there are also inappropriate and over the top requests.

4. Remember that coordinators are not friends, family, or therapists.

If you have a very friendly atmosphere going on with your coordinator, then that’s a good sign. Coordinators will immediately treat you like family even if it’s just your first time meeting each other. However, it is important to note that you should not think of them as people whom you can ask to run errands for you like a relative would. Asking them for relationship advice and crying your eyes out in front of them is also not advisable. To avoid awkward and uncomfortable situations, it’s best to remember this.

5. Properly communicate with them.

Communication really is the key to a good relationship. Always talk to your coordinator about your wedding concerns specially with the financial side of things. When booking vendors, always ask for the inclusions so you don’t unnecessarily spend more than you should. When it comes to money matters, it really is important to be honest and let your thoughts be heard.

6. Avoid talking to suppliers directly.

Sure you’re super excited to organize your wedding down to the smallest details but keep in mind that you hired a wedding coordinator for a good reason. Coordinators are there to help you with the step-by-step process of planning your wedding. So be sure to let your coordinators talk to your chosen vendors on your behalf. Doing so will not only spare you from all the hassle but also give you the opportunity to save money since coordinators will help you haggle with prices. Plus, letting your coordinators talk with vendors will keep them in the light and updated with everything that’s going on with your planning.

7. Manage your expectations.

Weddings come with budgets. So it is healthy to always manage your expectations in accordance with your wedding budget. Having unrealistic visions will ruin the magic of planning your wedding day. Remember that coordinators will always try to find the best deal for you. And they will do their best to appease you. So you should avoid blaming your coordinators if the actual plans are not as extravagant as what you had in your head.

8. Always notify them about any changes.

Had a change of heart and decided to replace your Maid of Honor? That’s okay. It’s normal to have a change of heart every now and then. But make sure to always notify your wedding coordinator about these changes so there won’t be any surprises. If the coordinators are unaware, even the smallest changes could lead to a not-so-pleasing wedding day.

9. Remember that you are not the only client.

Coordinators get that you feel extremely special because the big day is nearing. But it shouldn’t be a news flash that people other than you are also getting hitched. In fact, your coordinators may also be preparing for a wedding just a day before yours. So if you don’t get a reply within a few minutes, consider this. Instead of coming on too strong, be polite and tell them your concerns to avoid straining your relationship with them.

10. Trust the professionals.

Wedding coordinators last in the industry thanks to their professionalism and their own set of competencies. And when you hire them, you should give your full trust. You should trust their judgments, their recommendations, and their opinions. They won’t force you to go with details you do not want. At the end of the day, your coordinators wouldn’t want to give you anything short of perfection.

Keeping a good relationship with your wedding coordinator will help ensure a smooth sailing wedding planning experience, and ultimately, a perfect wedding day. It is important to always

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TUESDAY TIPS: Slaying Your Maid of Honor Speech

March 19, 2019

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Picture this: your best friend is getting married, she has asked you to be her maid of honor, you already have your dress, all the little details are being prepared,  you feel so excited, and can’t wait for the actual wedding day. Finally you remember that the wedding preparation is not the only thing you should be worrying about – you also have to write a beautiful speech that everyone is going to listen to during the reception.

How do you go about it? Read on for 10 tips on how to slay your maid of honor speech.

1. Start with a nice introduction 

First things first, you need to introduce yourself. You can’t expect everyone to know who you are. Chances are, many of the couple’s distant relatives are also present so you need to consider this. After all, friendly introductions never hurt anyone.

2. Share the story of your friendship

To make it easier for you to connect with everyone, you can tell them how you and the bride know each other and slide in a couple of stories about how the two of you became friends. You can also throw in some nostalgic memories specially if you two go way back.

 

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3. As much as possible, avoid inside jokes

At this point, you’ve already established yourself as the bride’s best friend so you don’t need to emphasize it more. Inside jokes will not only distance yourself from the audience, they will also make everyone unresponsive. Put yourself in their shoes, no matter how funny a story is, it would be hard to understand if you don’t know the context. You can crack some jokes but make sure that everyone gets it.

4. Don’t forget about the groom 

It may be true that you have shared a lot of memories with the bride, but always remember that it’s her wedding day.  As the maid of honor, you need to acknowledge the presence of the groom, besides, no wedding can exist if the groom isn’t there.

5. Spill some stories about the couple

Hearing stories about a couple from the perspective of a friend is always fun. You can spill some funny moments and talk about their love story. Just remember, there are things that only you and the couple should know about; so it’s best to run this through with the bride before the wedding.

6. Interact with the audience

You’re the one holding the microphone and talking in front of everyone but that doesn’t necessarily mean that you can’t interact with the audience. If you don’t want your audience to start losing their interest, you can always ask questions about the couple and have everyone answer them. That way, you not only get to share interesting things, but you are also able to keep their attention focused on you.

7. Offer some words of wisdom and wishes

Before you end your speech, it’s nice to share some words of wisdom and wish them a happy life together. As the bride’s best friend, you are the person who knows her the best and for sure, you have been a big part of their relationship. That’s why, you don’t have to be an expert on love to give them some advice.

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8. Don’t postpone writing

If you want to deliver a speech that will tug on the heartstrings of everyone, you need to start writing as soon as possible. Your first draft won’t be the final words that you will say during the wedding because there will be a lot of revisions. Writing everything you want to say doesn’t happen overnight.

9. Keep it short

Keep in mind that you don’t have the whole reception program to yourself. Aside from you, other people are also going to speak. You need to have a general idea of how long your speech should be. Also, you can’t guarantee that the attention of the audience will still be on you if you take too long.

10. Be yourself

And finally, always remember to be yourself. You are the maid of honor for a good reason. If the bride loves you, there’s almost a 100% chance that the people she loves will also come to like you.

So what else are you waiting for? Start typing and have fun!

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