We’ve been writing tips for brides-to-be or even for grooms-to-be. We haven’t explored any topic that concerns other people who are also involved in this taxing yet memorable journey that is wedding, until now. Today, we would like to connect with all the bridesmaids out there to give you some valuable tips on giving a mic drop-worthy moment.
A bridesmaid has a crucial role in the wedding, and one of which is the delivery of an important message to the couple. It seems easy but it is not. With all the overwhelming emotions, getting your message across might a little bit be difficult. Therefore today, we bring to you these tips to nail that speech.
1. Prepare: Unless you are some extemporaneous speech champion back in high school, you need some time to prepare your message. Even those extemporaneous speakers are given and need time to prepare, so why don’t you? Start writing your speech a month before the wedding to give you ample time to edit and practice it.
2. Focus: In writing your speech, focus is the key. Although no one’s gonna mark you some grades, it is important to take this seriously. After all, this is for your best friend. Pour your heart out and you will be surprised how beautiful your speech would be. At the same time, keep it short and sweet. You don’t wanna bore the guests with all your non-sense or your hifalutin anecdotes and quotes.
3. Practice: To keep you from that wedding toast disaster, practice is important. There’s nothing more effective than practicing your speech over and over. Practice, practice, practice until you get the hang of it. It is also useful if you let your other friends see or hear your speech so that you can solicit their advices and suggestions.
4. Be you: Find the style you are most comfortable with. Sometimes mimicking or copying other person’s style will bring you to your nightmare—that wedding toast disaster. Hence, it is better to be who you are. If you are funny, then show that through your speech. If you are creative then let them know. There are no right or wrong when it comes to being you.
5. Stay calm: Okay, the moment of delivering the speech has come and you might probably be sweating and having some butterflies in your stomach. That’s normal but in order for you to prevent that disaster to happen, stay calm and collected. Breathe in and breathe out. And just let your purest heart work for you.
Every mother wants her son to get married with one fine, neat lady. She wants the best for her son. Who doesn’t want to, right? Hence if she wants the best, she will desire for the perfect wedding. And there’s nothing wrong about that. The problem only lies when the mother suddenly becomes overtly involved in the wedding plan. She unknowingly sticks her nose in the plan and this is when everything falls apart. This is a true story and before your dream wedding becomes a nightmare, here are the three golden rules in dealing with your nosy yet lovable mother-in-law.
1. Draw the line in the sand: You have to set the boundaries from the onset. Let her know that you and her son will take the wheel and spearhead everything. Welcome your mother-in-law’s suggestions but be honest to her when it seems that those insights are not in line with yours. Be respectful when you say no.
2. Choose the battle for her: If she’s really into the wedding planning, why not assign her to a specific task. Perhaps, she has a discerning taste for accents and accessories or maybe she is creative. Choose the task she is good at and you will see her become a lot busier.
3. Make peace, not war: There are times that the involvement of a mother-in-law in planning a wedding gets out of hand. It gets ugly sometimes that may ruin your relationship with her. If this happens and before it gets worse, initiate the move to talk to your fiancé’s mother and iron things out. Do not talk badly to your man’s friends and families. Be level-headed and make peace with her.